"We cannot change anything until we accept it.
Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses."
You are not bad because you’re struggling, you are not weak because you’re experiencing pain, and you are not undeserving of love because hope eludes you now. Your suffering is real and, with the right support, it can be the path that leads you to deeper self-knowledge and a more empowered relationship with life.
I'm Vanessa (she/her), a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist offering soul-informed telehealth therapy sessions in private practice in California. I know that asking for
Vanessa Setteducato, LMFT #119184
help and opening up to someone new can feel vulnerable and intimidating. Using empathy, curiosity, and tender humor, I work in partnership with you to engage in the process of self-discovery.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I have clinical experience in community mental health, residential treatment, and private practice settings. I earned my Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology with an emphasis in Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. Before stepping into my calling as a therapist, I worked in the high-demand corporate worlds of music editorial and digital marketing in New York City. This diverse experience has fueled my curiosity for human motivation and passion for creativity, and given me a window into the experiences of clients who work in the corporate sector.
Here's a more detailed breakdown of my therapy experience and educational background.
"When I say the feminine, I don't mean gender. I mean the feminine principle that is living — or suppressed — in
The Hungry Feminine began with an inquiry about disordered eating patterns that arose during my graduate school research in 2016. I became interested in the unconscious cravings of women with binge eating disorder while writing my master's thesis, The Hungry Feminine and a Patriarchal Gag Order: Binge Eating in American Women.
Even after it was published, I couldn't put a cork in my curiosity about food and body and the feminine in America and how, even for those without a diagnosed eating disorder, those relationships are impacted by a culture that fetishizes food, celebrates consumption, and yet shames bodies. As I continue to unwrap new layers of this research, including broader perspectives that even transcend food and include privilege, relationships, sex, social justice issues and politics, you can follow along on the blog. These broader perspectives opened up once I realized the more I was talking about food in the context of modern cultures, the more I was, in fact, talking about everything.
The Hungry Feminine has evolved into a space for exploration and discovery for all. Oftentimes the concepts discussed here are safeguarded by academic gatekeepers, but if consciousness is really what we call for in the world, the knowledge deserves to be in the hands of everyone, not just those privileged enough to gain entry into intense academia. The Hungry Feminine isn't here to pathologize, diagnose, or prescribe and we only enter a therapist/client relationship if officially established in a clinical setting. This is a platform for universal understanding and, with any luck, self-forgiveness, regardless of your specific relationship with self, others, food, body image, and the feminine.