A wise woman wishes to be no one's enemy; a wise woman refuses to be anyone's victim. - Maya Angelou

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. - James Baldwin

Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. - Brené Brown

Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance. - Brené Brown

Some of the most important conversations I've ever had occurred at my family's dinner table. - Bob Ehrlich

The important thing about the goddess is not whether women sat on thrones and ruled in a matriarchal social structure; it is whether the quality of woman, the being of woman, the sense of woman was understood, known, and respected. - Joseph Campbell

Follow your bliss. - Joseph Campbell

Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal. - Albert Camus

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. - E.E. Cummings

"There is space within sisterhood for likeness and difference, for the subtle differences that challenge and delight; there is space for disappointment and surprise. - Christine Downing

For many years now I have had the quaint idea that all humans - yes, the whole six billion of them on this planet - are out of their fucking mind. - Albert Ellis

What you do incompetent or evil acts, you become a person who acted badly -- never a bad person. - Albert Ellis

If some longing goes unmet, don't be astonished. We call that life. - Anna Freud

I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time. - Anna Freud

If you can't handle criticism, take a joke, or deal with your own tension without violence, you have to wonder if you're up to the task of being in charge. - Hannah Gadsby

When somebody tells me to stop being so sensitive, you know what? I feel a little bit like a nose being lectured by a fart - not the problem. - Hannah Gadsby

Good and evil are manifestations of consciousness. If you reject one, you're not getting the whole thing that's there to be had. - Jerry Garcia

My father believes hunger is in the mind. I know differently. I know that hunger is in the mind and the body and the heart and the soul. - Roxane Gay

The body is resilient. It can endure all kinds of things. My body offers me the power of presence. My body is powerful. - Roxane Gay

“The soul of our civilization depends upon the civilization of our soul. The imagination of our culture calls for a culture of the imagination.” - James Hillman

“Our lives are determined less by our childhood than by the traumatic way we have learned to remember our childhood.” - James Hillman

“To be sane, we must recognize our beliefs as fictions.” - James Hillman

“Character forms a life regardless of how obscurely that life is lived and how little light falls on it from the stars.” - James Hillman

“What door is opened into soul through our wounds.” - James Hillman

“Anytime you're going to grow, you're going to lose something. You're losing what you're hanging onto to keep safe, you're losing habits that you're comfortable with, you're losing familiarity.” - James Hillman

“There is a secret love hiding in each problem.” - James Hillman


“Psychology ideally means giving soul to language and finding language for soul.” - James Hillman

We turn skeletons into goddesses and look to them as if they might teach us how not to need. - Marya Hornbacher

Feasts must be solemn and rare, or else they cease to be feasts. - Aldous Huxley

People intoxicate themselves with work so they won't see how they really are. - Aldous Huxley

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. - Carl Jung

We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. - Carl Jung

if you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise. - rupi kaur

how you love yourself is how you teach others to love you. - rupi kaur

What sane person could live in this world and not be crazy? - Ursula K. Le Guin

I do not have to elaborate for you who also grew up in this culture, so repressive to woman and sexuality, the innate splitting of instinctual urges young women must accomplish in order to survive with any remnants of self-esteem. - Betty Meador

Man has demonstrated that he is a master of everything -- except his own nature. - Henry Miller

You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. - Mary Oliver

Happiness can only exist in acceptance. - George Orwell

It is worse to stay where one does not belong at all than to wander about lost for a while and looking for the psychic and soulful kinship one requires. - Clarissa Pinkola Estés

“Be wild; that is how to clear the river. The river does not flow in polluted, we manage that. The river does not dry up, we block it. If we want to allow it its freedom, we have to allow our ideational lives to be let loose, to stream, letting anything come, initially censoring nothing.” Clarissa Pinkola Estés

“When seeking guidance, don't ever listen to the tiny-hearted. Be kind to them, heap them with blessing, cajole them, but do not follow their advice.” - Clarissa Pinkola Estés

“The psyches and souls of women also have their own cycles and seasons of doing and solitude, running and staying, being involved and being removed, questing and resting, creating and incubating, being of the world and returning to the soul-place.” -Clarissa Pinkola Estés

“If you have yet to be called an incorrigible, defiant woman, don't worry, there is still time” - Clarissa Pinkola Estés


Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love. - Rainer Maria Rilke

The deepest experience of the creator is feminine, for it is experience of receiving and bearing. - Rainer Maria Rilke

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change. - Carl Rogers

Freedom from obsession is not about something you do; it's about knowing who you are. It's about recognizing what sustains you and what exhausts you. What you love and what you think you love because you believe you can't have it. - Geneen Roth

There's nothing as unstoppable as a freight train full of fuck-yeah. - Jen Sincero

What is the most beautiful in virile men is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is something masculine. - Susan Sontag

Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves. - Henry David Thoreau

It's easy to be a naive idealist. It's easy to be a cynical realist. It's quite another thing to have no illusions and still hold the inner flame. - Marie-Louise von Franz

"Women are influenced by the man's anima projections... [some women] are conscious of themselves only as mirrors of the man's reaction." - Marie Louise von Franz

Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun. - Alan Watts

But the attitude of faith is to let go and become open to truth, whatever it might turn out to be. - Alan Watts

“The more a thing tends to be permanent, the more it tends to be lifeless.” - Alan Watts

“When we attempt to exercise power of control over someone else, we cannot avoid giving that person the very same power of control over us.” - Alan Watts

“Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun.” - Alan Watts

“The inevitability of pain will not be met by deadening sensitivity but by increasing it. By exploring and feeling out the manner in which the natural organism itself wants to react and which its innate wisdom has provided.” - Alan Watts

It is a joy to be hidden and a disaster not to be found. - D.W. Winnicott

Feeling real is more than existing; it is finding a way to exist as oneself... and to have a self into which to retreat for relaxation. - D.W. Winnicott

“Artists are people driven by the tension between the desire to communicate and the desire to hide.” - D.W. Winnicott

“Fear of breakdown is the fear of a breakdown that has already been experienced.” - D.W. Winnicott

“Somewhere in the scheme of things there can be room for everyone to live creatively. This involves retaining something personal, perhaps secret, that is unmistakably yourself. If nothing else, try breathing, something no one can do for you.” - D.W. Winnicott

“We are poor indeed if we are only sane.” - D.W. Winnicott

“The precursor of the mirror is the mother's face. - D.W. Winnicott


A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience. - Naomi Wolf

“The body is like an elaborate metaphor. One may be able to taste and not swallow, like the anorexic, or to swallow and not integrate, like the bulimic or obese.” - Marion Woodman

“Only by discovering and loving the goddess lost within her own rejected body can a woman hear her own authentic voice” - Marion Woodman

When I say the feminine, I don't mean gender. I mean the feminine principle that is living - or suppressed - in both men and women. - Marion Woodman

This is your body, your greatest gift, pregnant with wisdom you do not hear, grief you thought was forgotten, and joy you have never known. - Marion Woodman

Many people can listen to their cat more intelligently than they can listen to their own despised body. - Marion Woodman


If I can keep my soul singing and clapping its hands, then that's all that really matters. For me, that's what aging is all about: allowing the soul to expand even as the body fails. - Marion Woodman

“Transition begins in forgiveness.” - Marion Woodman

“Consciousness will not always solve the problem but it may make the suffering meaningful.” - Marion Woodman

“It is our fear of the future that distorts the now that could lead to a different future if we dared to be whole in the present.” - Marion Woodman

“Those living the feminine way choose to do something because it's of genuine worth, and because they love it, and can therefore put their energy into something honestly.” - Marion Woodman

“If we could allow the pace of our meetings to slow down to the pace of our hearts, we might find genuine understanding.” - Marion Woodman

“It takes great courage to break with one's past history and stand alone.” - Marion Woodman

“To strive for perfection is to kill love because perfection does not recognize humanity.” - Marion Woodman

“A life truly lived constantly burns away veils of illusion, burns away what is no longer relevant, gradually reveals our essence, until, at last, we are strong enough to stand in our naked truth.” - Marion Woodman

...sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past. - Irvin Yalom

“Labels do violence to people.” - Irvin Yalom

“I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another.” - Irvin Yalom

“Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.” - Irvin Yalom

“To care for another individual means to know and experience the other as fully as possible.” - Irvin Yalom

“Despair is the price one pays for self-awareness. Look deeply into life and you'll always find despair.” - Irvin Yalom

“Only the wounded healer can truly heal.” - Irvin Yalom






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