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If you were diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood, you may find yourself going through a series of emotions.

 

Maybe you're feeling angry that no one ever noticed you struggling and helped you name it.

Maybe you're feeling relieved that you finally understand yourself now, even if you're still learning.

Maybe you're feeling grief for the years that passed as you suffered in silence without knowing what help to ask for.

Learning about the neurochemistry of your brain is helpful in developing an understanding of yourself and why you do the things you do. An adult ADHD diagnosis can put into perspective why you've always struggled with time management, emotion regulation, social situations, spacial awareness, and sensory overload. It might help you understand why you're either unstoppably motivated or not motivated at all. 

But in addition to learning about your brain and how it works, processing the emotions that come with a late-life ADHD diagnosis is important, too. Therapy for ADHD should include an opportunity for you to identify the negative core beliefs you inherited from always feeling behind neurotypical standards. Whether you see yourself as lazy, dumb, slow, untrustworthy, clumsy, or incapable, chances are your undiagnosed ADHD supported shame and blame around your diverse executive functioning.

Therapy for ADHD in Adults 

An ADHD diagnosis in adulthood can make your childhood suddenly makes a whole lot of sense. 

Your school years are suddenly in focus, your relationships are better explained, and the sense that you were always "falling behind" or "missing something" that everyone else seemed to understand is growing clearer and clearer. 

 

Your exhausted determination to succeed despite endless obstacles may have left you feeling anxious, depressed, and depleted. It's time to recover.

What can you do now?

Manage Rejection Sensitivity and Executive Dysfunction 

Having ADHD can increase anxiety, depression, and your sensitivity to rejection. It can make it difficult, or even impossible, to stay on task, attune to important details, meet deadlines or even get started.

But ADHD can also make you powerful, creative, interesting, unstoppable. Because the thing you struggle with the most are neurotypical standards, which are external standards created without you in mind. You were never meant to meet those standards, and now you know why.

Managing rejection sensitivity and executive dysfunction can improve your ability to feel your strengths. Finding a sense of belonging among people who understand you is available now that you know yourself this way. And getting supplemental support or some exercises to try yourself can be helpful in reducing stress over executive dysfunction.

Shame and ADHD - What Happened When I was Diagnosed at 35

You may hold a lot of shame and secrets around how you function. From my personal experience, before I was diagnosed in my 30s, I let only a few people see "behind the scenes" of my high-functioning exterior. I created a persona of perfection so people wouldn't get too close to knowing what I was actually like, which was a mess. Or so I thought.

 

My diagnosis helped me own my quirks, and even celebrate the creative ways I adapted over the years. Instead of feeling shame, I was able to start honoring my experience, how hard basic day-to-day tasks are, and how much I was able to accomplish in spite of it.

I was also able to honor why I do things the way I do them. Spoiler alert: It's not because I'm broken, lazy, or stupid.

 

Once I stopped giving all of my energy to hiding and condemning myself, I learned how to allocate my energy more effectively so that I wasn't burning myself out trying to portray a certain image. Perfectionism was only hiding the shame, but now that I've moved the shame, I don't need to be perfect anymore. And now I can put that energy toward things that interest me, as well as building techniques that help daily tasks become a little easier.

 

I'd love to help you reach your own version of freedom with ADHD, too.  

Get Started with Therapy

Ready to do the work?

Here are the answers to some of your more burning questions:

- I offer online video therapy for adult residents of California

- I am not in-network with insurance but can provide monthly superbills for reimbursement

- My fee per session is $200

If you're ready to move forward:

Browse the FAQ for additional answers to your most important questions.

Then contact Vanessa to set up a free initial consultation call.